Many of us wonder through life with dreams, a thought of something we would like to do or be, only to realise that dream is no fucking closer to reality 1 year or even 10 years later. Sometimes never reaching reality at all. And this is the difference between dreams and goals; what becomes a reality. Most of us have dreams or desires but can often fail to manifest these in real life and we eventually arrive at a point where we are no longer capable of achieving these dreams because of age or because we have waited so long to begin working towards them that they are as relevant as personal hygiene is to my twelve year old son.
The following are 7 errors in thinking that can ensure your head is a pickled mess. We can all be masters of our own demise and even the most secure or arrogant son of a bitch occasionally finds him or herself spiraling as a result of maladaptive thinking patterns. I for one am guilty as charged.
Automatic Negative Thoughts have a sneaky habit of creeping into our heads at our most vulnerable moments… Bastards! We are generally aware that any given situation can result in a strong emotional response, but what we often neglect to consider what lies between the event and our emotional response, the thoughts. To be aware of the very real existence of Automatic Negative Thoughts and the snowballing impact they may have on the course of our day and even lives, is in its own small way uniquely liberating. The first time a person is introduced to the notion of Automatic Negative Thoughts, it serves to normalise that sometimes messed up process that goes on within our mind, and have them understand that although a thought occurs it is not necessarily true. So the next time you think ‘I’m just a big useless asshole’, remember it’s not necessarily true, because A, assholes are very useful things, and B, just because you thought it, does not mean it’s true.
Awareness is a tool which we must sharpen on a regular basis, before a blunted and rusty edge prevents us from being proactive individuals in control of our own lives. At least then, the only person we can blame for waking up in a urine soaked bed after heavy night on the booze is ourselves. It’s often easier to accept the low and pathetic situations we can find ourselves in when we know it’s our own doing, as next time we can do something about it. On a more positive note we get all the glory when things go as they should.
Assuming you have read the ‘About‘ section of this site (If you haven’t read this, why haven’t you!), you may have grasped that it’s important for us to live a life in which we make choices stemming from our own beliefs, values and desires, and awareness is essential to doing so. In the past I have often slipped into autopilot and ignored what needs to be done in my life or failed to put 100% effort into it… and surely I deserve at least that. A poor excuse for a lack of focus or progress.